Babies Are Not For Future Investments!
I hope everyone's Hari Raya celebration was a splentabulous one. While mine consists of only 4 house visits, I was more than happy that my house visitations ended right about there when I stepped out of my Aunt's house.
Thank god Hari Raya is over for me.
I encounter less repetitive aunts and uncles who always ask "What are you doing now?" or in non-gullible terms it means Which part of your life are you at.
I said that I am in SIM and I'm doing Accountancy.
But they always heard it as SMU and I'm doing Accountancy. I let it pass.
My grandmum was sitting beside me when good uncle asked me Which part of your life are you at. I said I'm still schooling. Where? he asked. SIM. What course? Business, Accountancy I replied. This was followed by a series of nods in agreement. I assume he "approves" the degree that I chose.
My grandmum budged in and said When you graduate, don't get married first, [instead] help your parents and repay them for the $$ that they have paid (doh!) for your education.
Money = sensitive issue
I was trying really hard to understand what was being said. Me, being an all rounder emotional freak, took in those words and in a second, I felt so betrayed.
I thought to myself. Why are kids always thought of as long term investments? It's so unfair, I worked so hard for myself. This degree, when I get it, it's for me right? Not to be plastered in my parent's bedroom!
I am 21 years old, wise, clever and independent and people have to tell me I cannot get married until I repay my parents?! Repaying in what sense? Repaying for the diapers that I've soiled and the Glucose that I've drank!?
My good aunt sensed my displeasure at the comment made my grandmum so she shielded me and rebutted saying, *laughs* Of course you can get married! Who says you can't! It's just that you help your parents along the way and don't forget them when you are married *guffaws*
The grief-stricken me posed a smile. At that point of time, I wonder what my parents were thinking. Their daughter, being thrown up to the sky to pour gold coins at them. What an absurd analogy, like I am a money god.
Point noted, but I don't think that's how my dad sees me. He wants me to be a successful person. Never before in my life he said anything like pay back my money for your education ASAP. I don't remember my parents being THAT calculative.
It's really sad when kids are treated as long term investments for financial support purposes. I hate being told what to do because I know I am as filial as any good daughters you see in classical movies.
I told my friends I don't want kids. That's because I have very high expectations of "it" and what if "it" cannot catch up with mummy's wants! I'll be very disappointed. But it never crosses my mind that "it" will be my future cash bank when I'm old and retired.
WHY PEOPLE THINK BABIES ARE PARENT'S FUTURE CASH BANKS! Not all, I mean some people.
Thank god Hari Raya is over for me.
I encounter less repetitive aunts and uncles who always ask "What are you doing now?" or in non-gullible terms it means Which part of your life are you at.
I said that I am in SIM and I'm doing Accountancy.
But they always heard it as SMU and I'm doing Accountancy. I let it pass.
My grandmum was sitting beside me when good uncle asked me Which part of your life are you at. I said I'm still schooling. Where? he asked. SIM. What course? Business, Accountancy I replied. This was followed by a series of nods in agreement. I assume he "approves" the degree that I chose.
My grandmum budged in and said When you graduate, don't get married first, [instead] help your parents and repay them for the $$ that they have paid (doh!) for your education.
Money = sensitive issue
I was trying really hard to understand what was being said. Me, being an all rounder emotional freak, took in those words and in a second, I felt so betrayed.
I thought to myself. Why are kids always thought of as long term investments? It's so unfair, I worked so hard for myself. This degree, when I get it, it's for me right? Not to be plastered in my parent's bedroom!
I am 21 years old, wise, clever and independent and people have to tell me I cannot get married until I repay my parents?! Repaying in what sense? Repaying for the diapers that I've soiled and the Glucose that I've drank!?
My good aunt sensed my displeasure at the comment made my grandmum so she shielded me and rebutted saying, *laughs* Of course you can get married! Who says you can't! It's just that you help your parents along the way and don't forget them when you are married *guffaws*
The grief-stricken me posed a smile. At that point of time, I wonder what my parents were thinking. Their daughter, being thrown up to the sky to pour gold coins at them. What an absurd analogy, like I am a money god.
Point noted, but I don't think that's how my dad sees me. He wants me to be a successful person. Never before in my life he said anything like pay back my money for your education ASAP. I don't remember my parents being THAT calculative.
It's really sad when kids are treated as long term investments for financial support purposes. I hate being told what to do because I know I am as filial as any good daughters you see in classical movies.
I told my friends I don't want kids. That's because I have very high expectations of "it" and what if "it" cannot catch up with mummy's wants! I'll be very disappointed. But it never crosses my mind that "it" will be my future cash bank when I'm old and retired.
WHY PEOPLE THINK BABIES ARE PARENT'S FUTURE CASH BANKS! Not all, I mean some people.
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